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The Language of Pain

Q. Does pain serve a purpose?

A. Pain is one of the protective mechanisms of the body and can alert us to recognizing areas in our life that are out of balance when symptoms manifest. It can alert us to an area of our body that we need to pay attention to; its messages can be physical or symbolic in nature. If we are playing tennis for example, and our wrist begins to hurt, we may then know it is time to stop playing before we incur an injury. The joints indicate how flexible we are both physically and in other ways.

The following list of body parts and symptoms will assist us in recognizing the areas of our lives that are out of balance when symptoms manifest.

General Areas and Systems of the Body

Breath indicates our ability to express ourselves in life. If we don’t express ourselves, it is as though someone has placed a boulder on our chest and we cannot fully breathe. Frequently, people place the boulder on themselves.

The breath is expressing our life-force, so asthma patients have life force problems. Often they were stifled from expressing as children. Babies and toddlers know the big picture of who they are, so they may experience tremendous frustration over being trapped in a physical body, unable to express the glory of their true identity. It is helpful to assist children to find safe avenues to explore their gifts and talents. When the life force becomes suppressed, the exhaling process becomes difficult, as is the case with asthma.

The fluids of our body have to do with emotions. Blood, in particular, is the equivalent of love. The ability to love is very important. If we deliberately withhold love we find constriction in our arteries.

Hardened arteries mean hardened emotions and condition of love.

The heart has to do with giving love. Drawing love from the limitless supply of the universe, it should flow out through our heart. If we close our heart because of fear or from not being fully present in our body, then we begin to give energy from our life-force center. This depletes us.

In order to insulate ourselves from this drain of energy, a layer of fat could build up around the solar plexus (stomach area). Lightworkers frequently have this layer of fat as an attempt to protect their energy source. People who suffered childhood abuse may use fat to insulate themselves from other people. It is important to live fully in the body. Many people have suffered childhood sexual abuse and learned to leave the body when things got unpleasant. If we don’t stay in the body and feel, then the heart center remains closed and we cannot fulfill our highest calling on this planet.

Soft tissues and ligaments reflect attitudes. Is our attitude positive? Do we frequently complain? The joints have to do with how flexible we are. The soft tissues control the joints, so they are affected too. For example, in the past, prior to a seminar I would receive the topic but no specific information on the forthcoming lecture. As a result, my knee joints hurt because I wasn’t flexible enough to trust that I would receive the information at the appropriate time.

The skin reflects how we interface with the world. When the skin is irritated, it is because we perceive the world as abrasive or hostile. If a boil develops, that means a specific area of our life is like a sore.

Bones indicate what we inherited from our parents and ancestors, or what we received from genetic memory and early social conditioning.

If an ailment occurs on the front of the body, that means we are aware of the issue but we haven’t dealt with it yet. If the ailment is on the back of the body, we are trying to put it behind us, or we aren’t aware of it yet. If it is on the left side of the body, it has to do with our feminine aspects, or with female relationships in our life. Problems on the right side of the body reflect the masculine part of ourselves, or our masculine relationships.

A virus is the result of being invaded – our boundaries have broken down. The first and foremost sacred space for us is our body and we honor ourselves by establishing healthy boundaries and maintaining it. Viruses, bacteria and fungus invade when our sub-personalities aren’t healthy, happy, whole and functioning. Fungus tends to come when we have abandoned ourselves, bacteria invades when deliberate hostile influences are entering our boundaries and viruses are the result of others being allowed to use and abuse us.

Excerpt from Handbook for Healers.

Healthy and Fun Food Tips

Nutritional Health for Everyone

It is a cosmic law that you strengthen what you oppose – an impor­tant principle to remember when raising a child. Good nutritional habits are built not from what you tell them not to eat, but from what they grow to love from your cooking.

The same principle applies to other areas of your child’s life. Op­posing drug use does not take away the root cause. Whether it is ad­diction to food or drugs, any addiction comes from abandoning the self. When you encourage your child to listen to their dreams, their body signals, and their hearts, they learn to live a life of authenticity. In touch with themselves, they have no need to reach out for some­thing to fill a gap.

Many books are available on nutrition, but if your child has ever had a bout of antibiotics, the essential one is The Body Ecology Diet, by Donna Gates.

(Excerpt from Almine’s book How to Raise an Exceptional Child.)

Nutritional Pointers

  • Spend time with your children in selecting healthy food choices, whether dining in a restaurant or during grocery shopping. Shared activities build relationships with our children as well as setting a trend of healthy eating. Many children enjoy cooking and baking, thus gaining a hobby and a life-long skill.
  • Diet is crucial in treating teenager’s acne and in establishing skills in choosing healthy foods. Avoid dairy, grease and fast foods. Getting children to drink enough water each day to pro­mote proper elimination may not be easy. Naturally flavored waters such as mint water or lemon are appealing and preferable to sugary so-called juice drinks or sport drinks. Add stevia as a sweetener if desired to your flavored waters. Try chilled herbal tea sweetened with stevia drops (those that don’t contain alcohol). Lymph flow is the key factor in clearing acne as well as the liver.
  • Finding a healthy sweetener is a core challenge of a good diet for teen-agers, kids and adults. We suggest liquid stevia, pure maple syrup or honey as sweeteners.
  • Cow’s milk, wheat and corn are the biggest offenders as far as food allergies are concerned. Eliminate them if the immune system seems stressed.
  • Condiments such as ketchup contain high amounts of sugar plus mold, which is an allergen for many people. Chocolate and beverages popular with teens and adults (including coffee, teas, cola and non-cola sodas), may contain caffeine that can contribute to hyperactivity, headaches and stomach upsets.

Fun Food Tips for Everyone

Q. My grandson was a preemie and had a feeding tube when he was an infant. He was also given a lot of liquids such as juice because he couldn’t eat solid food. I am trying to educate his mom plus help him gain weight and eat healthier food. Do you have any suggestions?

A. Try green shakes, also known as green smoothies:  Kids and adults enjoy blending vegetables such as kale, baby spinach, romaine, cucumbers, avocado, celery, carrots, etc. Water, almond, coconut milk, kefir, organic milk or plain yogurt may be used as a base for your shake with some fruits added for a bit of healthy sweetness including apple, pineapple, banana and berries (high in anti-oxidants). Making these drinks teaches some cooking skills and kids may enjoy ‘driving’ the blender with your help!

Temper Tantrums

A temper tantrum is the outward expression of inner turmoil. It is therefore non-productive to take that outer expression at face value. Often the child directs the turmoil at a misperceived outer object – you, for instance, or another child touching his toy – not knowing why he or she is really angry.

The first thing to do is to give him space to calm down and come to terms with his feelings (the traditional time out). Do it in a non-punitive way by saying, “Go to your room”. Or use the traditional standby, the water therapy bath with chamomile or lavender flowers tied in a cotton sock and hung on the running tap. You can then ask, “What is really bothering you? If you tell me about it, perhaps I can help”.

Children learn most by example. It is your example of not engaging the superficial that trains them to live a spiritual life of depth. You cannot react in anger and then expect them to masterfully respond to life’s circumstances. When you feel yourself slipping into frustration and anger, take ‘time out’ yourself before you respond. A bath works wonders for grownups too!

Excerpt from How To Raise and Exceptional Child by Almine.

Caring for Our Children

Excerpts from How to Raise an Exceptional Child by Almine.

It is in our children that the future evolutionary leaps of man are visible. We assist in the metamorphosis of man by fostering them.

One of the largest engineering firms in the US has encountered a dilemma: their young, computer-reared engineers cannot talk to the ‘older generation’ of engineers. One of the clear deficiencies in those who get all their information from computers is the inability to think abstractly. Not having learned through hands-on experience, they cannot envision some concepts until they see them in two-dimensional diagrams.  Awareness of this situation enables us to provide both types of learning opportunities for our children – linear and abstract thinking.


Skin Care Remedies

Spring is here and dandelions are popping up everywhere. Read our question and answer below for one simple home remedy that uses dandelions.

Q. How do I get rid of warts, moles and skin tags?

exceptionalchild_1024x1024A. I have found great success by using “Thieves Oil”, a Young Living Oils* product, applied twice a day, on moles and skin tags. It can also assist with warts, though some seem more stubborn than others. It is also very beneficial to apply dandelion juice twice a day. To get the juice, break the stem and you’ll see a milky-white liquid – you can read the full directions in How To Raise an Exceptional Child here.  If this does not fully remove them, you can visit a doctor’s office to have them removed. A dermatologist is recommend; they are specialists in dealing with skin conditions. If the doctor is not properly equipped to deal with such specialized treatment, it may not be successful – we have seen this happen on numerous occasions.

*Young Living Oils may be purchased through our Spiritual Journeys office at 877-552-5646, toll free in the US or contact Jan